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What are Emotions and Feelings?

How you can control your emotions and feelings instead of letting them control you



You have probably seen me write/talk about the fact that there is not one person 100% like any other person in the world. I mean, think about everything that makes up who we are.

Our genes. The combination of all our experiences since birth, or even of past life experiences if that’s what you’re into. The beliefs or set of beliefs we have adopted throughout our lives. Then take into account the interactions with other humans, who have their own beliefs and experiences. Add the environment to this, and you have even more variety if you consider weather, food, culture, ideology, vegetation, etc. etc.

In spite of this, all of us humans experience emotions and feelings. We may call them by different names, in different languages, and we may experience them for very different reasons, but the reality is, all of us experience them whether or not we are conscious about it.

Emotions are with us from the moment we are born until the moment we die and they affect everything we do as individuals. How we behave, how we think, how we relate to other people, how we make business decisions, how we make any decision, for that matter. They have a direct impact on our physical body, our psychology, and the list goes on.

Simply put: Every single human experiences emotions daily and these heavily influence said human’s thoughts, behaviors, and overall health.

So, one could say, if humans run the world and if emotions run humans then emotions run the world!

There are emotions that bring out the best in someone and other emotions that bring out the worst. Just like there are emotions that improve our health and emotions that hurt it.

The sad part in all of this is that most people were never taught to understand and manage their emotions. It’s just not something they teach you in school or that most parents sit down and discuss with their children.

But the good news is that no matter how old you are, it is never too late to learn about yourself, your emotions, and how to live better .

So let’s take a closer look as to what is an emotion and why it is that we all have them.

I want to be fully transparent about the information I share. For at least some of the things I will share with you at E.I. Jane, you may find conflicting research. The way I curate content is guided in large part by not only the research but also by me having applied the knowledge and that knowledge having served me in some kind of way. In other words, if I have learned and applied information and that information has been beneficial in my life, then I will prefer sharing that over a conflicting view that has not served me.

Therefore, for this article, I will combine knowledge from Dr. Alan Watkins, Tony Robbins, my meditation teacher, S.N. Goenka, and my own experiences.

I’d like to start the explanation of what is an emotion by making an important distinction between the words emotion and feeling.

There are several known researchers, psychologists, and neuroscientists that agree with this and it also makes the world of emotions easier to understand so I’ll stick to this.

I liked how Dr. Alan Watkins explained it. He said:

Emotion is simply “energy in motion".

It is something that happens at the level of your body in the form of biological signals and can usually be measured. S.N. Goenka, my meditation teacher, called this movement of energy “sensations” and also explained that we have them constantly throughout our entire bodies and that the mind doesn’t always perceive all the sensations we actually experience every second of every day.

Therefore, for our purposes, emotion is the movement of energy in your body.

Feelings are a bit different.

Feelings are the awareness in our minds of this energy running through our bodies and there is always a thought process that accompanies this awareness.

Feelings are directly influenced by our beliefs and the meaning we give to what we experience. If you think about it, feelings are often very subjective. I say this because you can have one specific event bring out completely different and, sometimes opposite, feelings in two people experiencing the same event.

For example, let’s talk about the ending of the movie Titanic: some people were sad because Leonardo died. Other people were angry because Kate stayed on the ice block and didn’t even try to help him up. And other people were happy the movie ended because, let’s face it, it was way too long. So you see, same information or stimuli, totally different feelings.

Alan Watkins explains that when we feel something, we usually blame it on someone else. “He broke my heart.” “She makes me angry.” You make me hangry,” which is hungry and angry so imagine that…But the point is, we tend to look outside of ourselves a lot of the times when we talk about feelings. This is completely irrational because someone else cannot create all those biological movements within your body and they also cannot control your thoughts, unless, of course, their name is Professor Charles Xavier and in that case then you’re excused.

So, if you understand that you are solely responsible for your emotions, that you and only you have the power to feel a certain way, and that no one can do that for you, then, as Dr. Watkins explains, you literally take your power back. You’re able to do this because you understand that how you feel is not caused by someone else but you. And luckily, you CAN control what you do so, if you choose, you can easily shift from being the victim to being in control.

Let’s say, for example, that you want more love in your life. You can’t control who gives you love. But if you want to give love yourself, who can stop you? If you want your partner to make you happy, he or she may not make you happy. But if you want to feel happy or you want to make your partner feel happy, who can stop you?

This level of control provides an incredible amount of freedom because now, you won’t have to rely on anyone but yourself to feel how you want to feel. And this, ladies and gentlemen, is part of becoming emotionally fit.

Now, let’s simplify and summarize what we learned about emotions:

  • Emotions are the movement of energy in the body. We experience them every second of every day but our brains are not always aware of everything going on.
  • Feelings happen when the brain becomes aware of this energy movement in your body and attaches a thought process to the sensation. This is influenced by our beliefs and the interpretation or meaning we give to what we are experiencing.
  • Emotions happen in our bodies, feelings in our minds.
  • We learned that no one has the ability to inflict emotions or feelings upon you. Only you can do that.
  • And we learned that if you want to gain control of your life, then you must understand how your emotions work and learn to control them instead a letting them control you.

With this understanding alone, you can take control of your life and start discovering a new kind of freedom and joy that puts you on the path, if you choose, of loving and accepting yourself no matter what and doing what’s necessary to create the life you want.

Always remember: your best self is already within you and you can uncover it by knowing, loving, and being your most authentic self each day.

What are Emotions and Feelings?

How you can control your emotions and feelings instead of letting them control you



You have probably seen me write/talk about the fact that there is not one person 100% like any other person in the world. I mean, think about everything that makes up who we are.

Our genes. The combination of all our experiences since birth, or even of past life experiences if that’s what you’re into. The beliefs or set of beliefs we have adopted throughout our lives. Then take into account the interactions with other humans, who have their own beliefs and experiences. Add the environment to this, and you have even more variety if you consider weather, food, culture, ideology, vegetation, etc. etc.

In spite of this, all of us humans experience emotions and feelings. We may call them by different names, in different languages, and we may experience them for very different reasons, but the reality is, all of us experience them whether or not we are conscious about it.

Emotions are with us from the moment we are born until the moment we die and they affect everything we do as individuals. How we behave, how we think, how we relate to other people, how we make business decisions, how we make any decision, for that matter. They have a direct impact on our physical body, our psychology, and the list goes on.

Simply put: Every single human experiences emotions daily and these heavily influence said human’s thoughts, behaviors, and overall health.

So, one could say, if humans run the world and if emotions run humans then emotions run the world!

There are emotions that bring out the best in someone and other emotions that bring out the worst. Just like there are emotions that improve our health and emotions that hurt it.

The sad part in all of this is that most people were never taught to understand and manage their emotions. It’s just not something they teach you in school or that most parents sit down and discuss with their children.

But the good news is that no matter how old you are, it is never too late to learn about yourself, your emotions, and how to live better .

So let’s take a closer look as to what is an emotion and why it is that we all have them.

I want to be fully transparent about the information I share. For at least some of the things I will share with you at E.I. Jane, you may find conflicting research. The way I curate content is guided in large part by not only the research but also by me having applied the knowledge and that knowledge having served me in some kind of way. In other words, if I have learned and applied information and that information has been beneficial in my life, then I will prefer sharing that over a conflicting view that has not served me.

Therefore, for this article, I will combine knowledge from Dr. Alan Watkins, Tony Robbins, my meditation teacher, S.N. Goenka, and my own experiences.

I’d like to start the explanation of what is an emotion by making an important distinction between the words emotion and feeling.

There are several known researchers, psychologists, and neuroscientists that agree with this and it also makes the world of emotions easier to understand so I’ll stick to this.

I liked how Dr. Alan Watkins explained it. He said:

Emotion is simply “energy in motion".

It is something that happens at the level of your body in the form of biological signals and can usually be measured. S.N. Goenka, my meditation teacher, called this movement of energy “sensations” and also explained that we have them constantly throughout our entire bodies and that the mind doesn’t always perceive all the sensations we actually experience every second of every day.

Therefore, for our purposes, emotion is the movement of energy in your body.

Feelings are a bit different.

Feelings are the awareness in our minds of this energy running through our bodies and there is always a thought process that accompanies this awareness.

Feelings are directly influenced by our beliefs and the meaning we give to what we experience. If you think about it, feelings are often very subjective. I say this because you can have one specific event bring out completely different and, sometimes opposite, feelings in two people experiencing the same event.

For example, let’s talk about the ending of the movie Titanic: some people were sad because Leonardo died. Other people were angry because Kate stayed on the ice block and didn’t even try to help him up. And other people were happy the movie ended because, let’s face it, it was way too long. So you see, same information or stimuli, totally different feelings.

Alan Watkins explains that when we feel something, we usually blame it on someone else. “He broke my heart.” “She makes me angry.” You make me hangry,” which is hungry and angry so imagine that…But the point is, we tend to look outside of ourselves a lot of the times when we talk about feelings. This is completely irrational because someone else cannot create all those biological movements within your body and they also cannot control your thoughts, unless, of course, their name is Professor Charles Xavier and in that case then you’re excused.

So, if you understand that you are solely responsible for your emotions, that you and only you have the power to feel a certain way, and that no one can do that for you, then, as Dr. Watkins explains, you literally take your power back. You’re able to do this because you understand that how you feel is not caused by someone else but you. And luckily, you CAN control what you do so, if you choose, you can easily shift from being the victim to being in control.

Let’s say, for example, that you want more love in your life. You can’t control who gives you love. But if you want to give love yourself, who can stop you? If you want your partner to make you happy, he or she may not make you happy. But if you want to feel happy or you want to make your partner feel happy, who can stop you?

This level of control provides an incredible amount of freedom because now, you won’t have to rely on anyone but yourself to feel how you want to feel. And this, ladies and gentlemen, is part of becoming emotionally fit.

Now, let’s simplify and summarize what we learned about emotions:

  • Emotions are the movement of energy in the body. We experience them every second of every day but our brains are not always aware of everything going on.
  • Feelings happen when the brain becomes aware of this energy movement in your body and attaches a thought process to the sensation. This is influenced by our beliefs and the interpretation or meaning we give to what we are experiencing.
  • Emotions happen in our bodies, feelings in our minds.
  • We learned that no one has the ability to inflict emotions or feelings upon you. Only you can do that.
  • And we learned that if you want to gain control of your life, then you must understand how your emotions work and learn to control them instead a letting them control you.

With this understanding alone, you can take control of your life and start discovering a new kind of freedom and joy that puts you on the path, if you choose, of loving and accepting yourself no matter what and doing what’s necessary to create the life you want.

Always remember: your best self is already within you and you can uncover it by knowing, loving, and being your most authentic self each day.

You have probably seen me write/talk about the fact that there is not one person 100% like any other person in the world. I mean, think about everything that makes up who we are.

Our genes. The combination of all our experiences since birth, or even of past life experiences if that’s what you’re into. The beliefs or set of beliefs we have adopted throughout our lives. Then take into account the interactions with other humans, who have their own beliefs and experiences. Add the environment to this, and you have even more variety if you consider weather, food, culture, ideology, vegetation, etc. etc.

In spite of this, all of us humans experience emotions and feelings. We may call them by different names, in different languages, and we may experience them for very different reasons, but the reality is, all of us experience them whether or not we are conscious about it.

Emotions are with us from the moment we are born until the moment we die and they affect everything we do as individuals. How we behave, how we think, how we relate to other people, how we make business decisions, how we make any decision, for that matter. They have a direct impact on our physical body, our psychology, and the list goes on.

Simply put: Every single human experiences emotions daily and these heavily influence said human’s thoughts, behaviors, and overall health.

So, one could say, if humans run the world and if emotions run humans then emotions run the world!

There are emotions that bring out the best in someone and other emotions that bring out the worst. Just like there are emotions that improve our health and emotions that hurt it.

The sad part in all of this is that most people were never taught to understand and manage their emotions. It’s just not something they teach you in school or that most parents sit down and discuss with their children.

But the good news is that no matter how old you are, it is never too late to learn about yourself, your emotions, and how to live better .

So let’s take a closer look as to what is an emotion and why it is that we all have them.

I want to be fully transparent about the information I share. For at least some of the things I will share with you at E.I. Jane, you may find conflicting research. The way I curate content is guided in large part by not only the research but also by me having applied the knowledge and that knowledge having served me in some kind of way. In other words, if I have learned and applied information and that information has been beneficial in my life, then I will prefer sharing that over a conflicting view that has not served me.

Therefore, for this article, I will combine knowledge from Dr. Alan Watkins, Tony Robbins, my meditation teacher, S.N. Goenka, and my own experiences.

I’d like to start the explanation of what is an emotion by making an important distinction between the words emotion and feeling.

There are several known researchers, psychologists, and neuroscientists that agree with this and it also makes the world of emotions easier to understand so I’ll stick to this.

I liked how Dr. Alan Watkins explained it. He said:

Emotion is simply “energy in motion".

It is something that happens at the level of your body in the form of biological signals and can usually be measured. S.N. Goenka, my meditation teacher, called this movement of energy “sensations” and also explained that we have them constantly throughout our entire bodies and that the mind doesn’t always perceive all the sensations we actually experience every second of every day.

Therefore, for our purposes, emotion is the movement of energy in your body.

Feelings are a bit different.

Feelings are the awareness in our minds of this energy running through our bodies and there is always a thought process that accompanies this awareness.

Feelings are directly influenced by our beliefs and the meaning we give to what we experience. If you think about it, feelings are often very subjective. I say this because you can have one specific event bring out completely different and, sometimes opposite, feelings in two people experiencing the same event.

For example, let’s talk about the ending of the movie Titanic: some people were sad because Leonardo died. Other people were angry because Kate stayed on the ice block and didn’t even try to help him up. And other people were happy the movie ended because, let’s face it, it was way too long. So you see, same information or stimuli, totally different feelings.

Alan Watkins explains that when we feel something, we usually blame it on someone else. “He broke my heart.” “She makes me angry.” You make me hangry,” which is hungry and angry so imagine that…But the point is, we tend to look outside of ourselves a lot of the times when we talk about feelings. This is completely irrational because someone else cannot create all those biological movements within your body and they also cannot control your thoughts, unless, of course, their name is Professor Charles Xavier and in that case then you’re excused.

So, if you understand that you are solely responsible for your emotions, that you and only you have the power to feel a certain way, and that no one can do that for you, then, as Dr. Watkins explains, you literally take your power back. You’re able to do this because you understand that how you feel is not caused by someone else but you. And luckily, you CAN control what you do so, if you choose, you can easily shift from being the victim to being in control.

Let’s say, for example, that you want more love in your life. You can’t control who gives you love. But if you want to give love yourself, who can stop you? If you want your partner to make you happy, he or she may not make you happy. But if you want to feel happy or you want to make your partner feel happy, who can stop you?

This level of control provides an incredible amount of freedom because now, you won’t have to rely on anyone but yourself to feel how you want to feel. And this, ladies and gentlemen, is part of becoming emotionally fit.

Now, let’s simplify and summarize what we learned about emotions:

  • Emotions are the movement of energy in the body. We experience them every second of every day but our brains are not always aware of everything going on.
  • Feelings happen when the brain becomes aware of this energy movement in your body and attaches a thought process to the sensation. This is influenced by our beliefs and the interpretation or meaning we give to what we are experiencing.
  • Emotions happen in our bodies, feelings in our minds.
  • We learned that no one has the ability to inflict emotions or feelings upon you. Only you can do that.
  • And we learned that if you want to gain control of your life, then you must understand how your emotions work and learn to control them instead a letting them control you.

With this understanding alone, you can take control of your life and start discovering a new kind of freedom and joy that puts you on the path, if you choose, of loving and accepting yourself no matter what and doing what’s necessary to create the life you want.

Always remember: your best self is already within you and you can uncover it by knowing, loving, and being your most authentic self each day.

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